In 2019, a video went viral. In that video, this woman allegedly passed a comment on dressing sense of 4 girls. As per the claim, this woman found the dress of one of these to be extremely short and casually said “you shall be raped for wearing this!”
In those days, I posted on Instagram story of @storiesws addressing the male followers with a comment “This girl could have been your sister, girlfriend or friend” and urged people to not to be like the woman seen in the video.
To this, one of our followers made the following comment.
Very sensible thing to say! She was right, it did not have to be related to a guy for them to understand that what the woman did was wrong.
“But what made me develop a relationship based relatability?”, I asked myself.
The answer was in the comment itself. ‘Relatable’
It is in human psyche to be less moved by pain of others or related least when we cannot relate to it.
I’ll give you another example.
Last week, in an unfortunate event, a 6 year kid of a construction worker was sexually assaulted by a 17 year old adolescent of a building caretaker in my society. While police was doing its work, society decided to ensure that the latter leaves the society with family.
The mother of the 17 yo convinced one of the residents about how the accusations are false and they are being forced out without any reason. This resident raised a voice gareeb aadmi ko sataya ja rha hai in the meeting.
After she did not chose to budge, another resident just asked one question.
“X (name), what if this was not that 6 yo but YOUR child who was assaulted?”
X was standing in her place. She has a 10 yo and 2 twins 4yo. Her face shrank in no time. She did not just settle in her place but also voted to expel the caretaker.
What exactly happened here?
X was idealistic till the time it did not come to her own kids. Once she realized that this could have been her kids, no law, no rule, no idealism made sense. This is what I call ‘relatability quotient’
It does not matter who you are or what you do! We are all idealists when it comes to standing detached from the position. The moment it comes down to us, our family, our parents, our kids; the justice shall be served in first instance.
What’s the purpose of telling you these stories? Develop two qualities: Empathy and Rationalism.
What someone else is going through can not be comprehended from your prism, be empathetic
There has to be some common ground to build foundation of a society or any culture. Surviving on ‘Afterall, what is right or wrong?’ sounds idealist only till it does not come down to you! Be rational. :)
Picture of the week
I was in Delhi earlier this week and somehow, this clock serves as a sweet reminder to me. Delhi Metro is incomplete to me without these remarkable clocks on every platform. Here’s one! :)